Do You Still Play?(Part 2)

If your expecting something a little raunchy, sorry I wasn’t thinking of those type of games, or maybe I was and chickened out 😂 After last weeks post I got to thinking. Why do some of us swop hide and seek for manipulate and control I wonder? For some, manipulation is a game, certainly for the ones who perpetrate it (quite often men) and devastating to the victim (quite often women) so how do they get away with it? Many years ago the answer was simple – women were sex objects, treated as stupid and so it was their own fault. I can testify to this, I grew up in the 70’s.

Of course these days things are changing (much to the annoyance of the chauvinist Victorian Male) and we have learnt (well some of us have)  that women are in fact people, far from stupid and it is definitely not their fault. To be honest I always knew this. So why does it still happen? I read a post this week stating how some women would rather have someone than no one – interesting  – Is it the fear of being alone? – Could be – But could it be genetic? Years ago women knew their place, surely that would be passed down genetically? Ooops, along came the Suffragettes (other women’s movements are available, hurrah) and more and more women are becoming independent; could this be an instinct  passed down from generation to generation, so today we are seeing less and less of the male reliant, downtrodden woman and more independent, strong, single minded women. The problem is we don’t realise we are being manipulated and raising awareness is so very important, so I take my hat off to all those brave people that tell their stories, no matter how painful it may be.

But, what’s going to happen to all the manipulators? Probably wind up in front of a computer screen with their trousers around their ankles, OMG sorry for that image. Of course women manipulate men; in fact I’ve often been manipulated, but that’s different, (c’mon ladies you know what I mean) walking down a street, arm in arm, pointing to a particular dress or piece of jewellery and commenting how lovely it is 😂

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15 Responses to Do You Still Play?(Part 2)

  1. Oh god, story of Ron gave me headache…..god gave strength to the lady.

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  2. Yes indeed, one should not ignore vibes or inner instincts.

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  3. You write with wisdom, Charlie. I too grew up in the 70’s and sometimes it sends a shiver down my spine to remember what things were like. But there is still room for gentlemanly behaviour and play between the genders. I have no problem with people referring to “man-flu” or “girlie runs”, and think that sometimes too po-faced a stance is killing our sense of playful humour. Does this make me a chauvenist or a manipulator, I wonder? Have I still got one foot in the seventies?

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  4. chattykerry says:

    That car advert suggesting one spread one’s legs is hilarious!

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  5. The Hinoeuma says:

    Ron should be punched in the face. OY.

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  6. Carolyn Page says:

    There are many ‘Rons’ in our world. I was married to one for 12 years, Charlie… Our daughter (my beautiful daughter) is as a result of this union – Beauty can be found in the most dangerous of situations… 🙂
    However, I learned a lot from this union; mostly how to avoid such unions. Wisdom comes in strange packages.
    So no, Charlie; I’m not a player! But, being now removed from such harsh times, and having worked hard to remove the emotional/mental scars; I am very wary of the red flags! Thankfully, my lifestyle keeps me engaged with good folk.
    Give me fun, humour and respect… We all deserve them! 🙂

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    • It’s more prevalent than people think, but there is a lot of awareness raising going on, it’s even been in the Archers and ran for about a year. I think it’s terrible that people have to work hard to remove emotional/mental scars, but no, you are definitely not a player! 😀😀 Thank you so much for your input 🙏😀

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  7. Interesting article, Charlie. I was married the first time in the 70’s. I grew up under difficult circumstances which made me a strong woman and independent woman. However, I never bought into the now prevalent theory that “men are bad” and “women their victims.” That’s not discounting bad things happen to good people of both sexes. But, I also beleive in the old-fashioned relationship between men and women. I have always enjoyed being treated like a lady. I don’t take a compliment as a form of harrassment. Women can be strong, independent, and have healthy relationships. It’s about respect, boundaries, love. Frankly, i’m rather tired of all the battle and over sentistivity constanting waging between the two sexes. But, just my two cents.

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    • Very good input Sheila, you’re right and I think some people spoil the seriousness of real manipulation and abuse by harping on about less serious issues such as maybe a wolf whistle, I’ve known people to be sacked for a simple wolf whistle from a scaffold, although I understand that this may make some women uncomfortable and a woman should be able to walk down a street without being subjected to it; it is after all a compliment. I remember a couple of years ago my wife got a double take from two fellas and was very impressed at 52 lol.

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  8. Very honest share. Looking back and defining… helps us to move forward and seek clarity. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

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