Mam, Dad + Me

Have you noticed how many Parenting books, articles, columns, blogs there are today? Type Parenting Guides into Google and there are 11,100,000 results. Do parents have time to do any parenting after they have read all the articles on how to be a good parent? What is a good parent? Do the parents who read all these actually need them? I have this thing I have to do called work, which involves spending a lot of time with 16 – 20 year-olds. Some people call it teaching. On parents evening I never see the parents of my more challenging students (other names are available) so I guess their parents haven’t read the books? Then of course a lot of reading material is contradictory, so if you thought you were an inadequate parent before you started studying you probably will when you’re through.

When my first child was born the midwife told us to wrap him tight in his blanket at bedtime with his arms pinned and lay him on his side. The idea was that without flailing arms he would sleep, which he did. That was the only advice we were given. I remember that we put him in a basket and sat and watched him, I think we were expecting some kind of development. Like a speeded up nature film where the plant grows three months in ten seconds. Needless to say nothing happened and over a period of time we payed less and less attention to him until we realised one day he had left home. I’m joking of course. We muddled through and probably made mistakes and although I was not always around and in reality not what you could call a good  father he turned out to be wonderful person.


Of course if you have a troublesome child then you may need advice, but the problem is 11,100,000 results may just contradict each other from time to time causing confusion. Years ago there was always someone on the street who you could go to. I know on our council estate there was a lady who was particularly good at helping to deliver babies and another who could save your sewing disasters and yet another who could help sort out your kids. Now we seem to have swopped communities for authors.  So don’t worry too much if you haven’t studied to degree level when your child is born if you think you need to read a book on how to be a better parent then you are probably already there. Or you could ask your Mum 🙂

The 50 most asked questions one of them is ‘My ten year old is watching porn online how do I stop him.’ Really, I mean really. Here’s a question for you. Have you heard of the Parental Control button?

About charliecountryboy

Part-time Carpentry Assessor. writer, runner, guitarist. Curious about life and all those wonderful people in it.
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15 Responses to Parents

  1. Carolyn Page says:

    Well, Charlie, I certainly got a laugh out of that! In fact, I’m still smiling!
    I’m of that generation where neighbours used to help each other out. One of the mums cut hair. We, the children who needed a haircut, would line up outside her laundry and, one by one, entered to receive a cut and a smile. We were the first house in our street during the 50s when TV entered our lives. Kids from the street visited after school to watch with us! One of neighbours helped my mother with housework when she came home from the hospital with twins; that made six kids. Help!
    It’s a different day, a different era; but, hey… I believe we are all too busy these days. Mums need to work to make ends meet; dads are working long and, generally, exhausting hours. And yet, in the main, most make it through intact and able. Who’d have thought, though, that 10 year olds would have a porn problem. The worst for me, in those days of youth, was being caught with a cigarette!

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    • Thank you for your comments I’m glad it made you laugh. Kids don’t seem to have a very long childhood these days. Cigarettes weren’t such a big deal for us as everyone smoked lol. I remember my Maths teacher catching me smoking on the way to school and threatened to tell the headmaster unless I gave him one. The woman in the corner shop used to split packets of 5 Park Drive and sell them for a penny each then put them in a sweetie packet 😀

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  2. We regulated internet usage by refusing to have wireless and by making them use a computer downstairs. As for the rest of it, we took it as it came, asked mother and made them do lots of sport. They aren’t perfect, but who is?

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    • That’s excellent, sport is a hurdle with my students, most of them just don’t want to be involved until I entice them in, but as you say none of us are perfect 😀

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      • Number Two son persuaded his PE Teacher that they should start a rugby team. He was told they would do it if he could recruit 14 other players. So he did. They did well. but most of them didn’t carry on playing and after putting a team together in a younger age group it all seemed to fade away. It must be very frustrating as a teacher.


      • That was very innovative of him, a pity they didn’t keep it up, I think at a certain age girlfriends and alcohol etc take over. Ha, I find senior management, OFSTED and the government frustrating. Students are students at least they have consistency 😀


      • Jobs, to be fair, also take a toll, as they have to finance the girls and booze. 🙂


  3. Ha ha! Perfect!! I thoroughly enjoyed this! Witty truth! Thank you K

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  4. Very interesting and of course parenting is such a hard job. It ought to be harder to become a parent, but I’m not sure how that could be done. I like to think that the best parents are those who parent from a loving place. You can’t always get it right, but if you try your best, then you’re on the right track. And of course, it helps to be humble …

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